> 
> One of the things I have become quite anal about is my information being
> out of
> my control. This limits me to not using cloud services. For me - - - I want
> no one
> else to own nor to control my information, this makes me quite reluctant to
> even
> use web based services. I am finding that even this has a lot of unattended
> difficulties!
>

I understand. I empathize. I encourage your behaviour. You are doing it right.
learn, and keep things under your control.


OK, so skip the virtual server. Keep a box at home, and follow what I said
about forwarding ports (both 80 and the https one... 443 or something), and
directing CNAME nameserver entries at your domain registrant to point home.
Do all internal testing of Horde on your own, with /etc/hosts and the like.
But I can guarantee you that when your mailserver goes out and into production,
you WILL have issues with its integrity, i.e. other mailservers will want you
to have SMTP authentication, not be black- or gray-listed, and various other
attributes.

It will almost become a part-time job, and do budget for it in your business
plan, that you will spend some of your time on IT-related crap that is simply
imposed on you from the outside. (That is why IT is a big business.)

Take LOTS of notes, and have a logbook for _everything_ that you do or change
on hte system, with a date and time recorded. Thank me later.

As for your other, business development related comments, you are welcome. I
do understand that the regulators are always there to make things harder for
you, but there is always a reason for it, and they are merely doing their job.
Your job is to work within the (bureaucratic) framework that is there. It is
good to have your own business and control your own fate. You are doing it
right. If it were not worth it, we would be living in a uber-socialist or a
presumably communist society. No... It pays to have your own business, otherwise
private enterprise would not exist!